Eve Sophia

There are a lot of reasons to feel depressed and negative in today’s world.  News of the bad economy, no jobs, recession, the national debt.  The list goes on.  The media cramms it down our throats.  And yet, we can rise above it.  We can actually prosper and thrive personally despite the bad economy and bad news our lousy government and sensationalist-media are feeding us.  When you live from the “inside out” rather than the “outside in” you can accomplish all that you want no matter what.  This is not a new concept by any means yet it is radically new for so many people.  It has to do with taking complete responsibility for ourselves.  The average good, hard-working person (including me) thinks they do all the time.  But, there is still a part of us we tend to not “tend to.”  That is our deep inner voice which is subtle but very powerful.  I call it God pushing me around!  ha!

I am currently taking a 6-lesson online course in Intuitive Healing and raising my own energetic level around me to do exactly what I am talking about above.  When we raise our energetic vibrational field around us we can manifest what we want and quickly.  Now of course, this sounds easier than it actually is.  ha!  Do I know that!  But once you start this journey you get bound and determined to change your life and how you think/feel period!  I noticed that after only 2 lessons, when I get nervous or fearful of not having enough money or mortgage or whatever, I feel even worse than I did before I started this course.  It’s like I’ve already lifted myself and to come down to those previous places is a huge fall!  It’s a wonderful exercise in listening to one’s own body and thoughts.  What do I really want in life and how can I get it and prosper no matter what the fools in federal government are doing or what the hyper-media is spewing?!  We can bypass that stuff in our lives and tap into ourselves to bring out and manifest our own desires and prosperity. 

This is not junk science.  We are spiritual beings in a physical body not the other way around.  We always have been.  What we need to do is personally regroup and tap into this for answers to our own life’s questions.  And I think with what is going on in the world today, we are all primed and ready for a new approach to personal happiness and prosperity.  I have taken my personal steps to make life work better for me.  I encourage anyone reading my blog to do the same.  Google “intuitive healing” or “meditation” for starters and you’ll be amazed at the ton of information that comes up to help you.  Don’t wait for the government to turn things around.  Do it for yourself.  You’ll be glad you did!

Ok folks.  Since I am a musician and I play a number of weddings at my church yearly, I have been privy to quite a number of bridal gowns, bridesmaid dresses and mother’s dresses.  Let’s get straight to it.  Here’s my assessment.  Ahem.  IF you must wear a strapless gown, please, please make sure you have the body for it.  There are a number of dress styles for all types of figures.  The challenge is to find the one that fits YOU and makes YOU look fabulous.  It may not be the desired look (strapless, form-fitting, etc.) but that doesn’t matter on your wedding day.  What matters is that YOU look terrific!  I have seen so much lately…literally!

If you have more body than can be comfortably crammed into a strapless dress, please pick another style.  This goes for brides, bridesmaids and mothers.  All three of you!  Don’t forget that while you are busy getting married at the altar, we are looking at your back.  What and how much would you like us to see?  Think about that!  Long and hard!  And don’t forget those “tan lines.”  Nothing looks worse than a strapless dress with”phanton” straps due to a bathing suit while tanning.  Fill them in with self-tanner or something…fix that!  Remember, your photographer is hanging around as well taking those permanent pictures.

I have also begun to see the trend of street-length bridesmaid dresses.  Ok…that works too!  Well, how short though?  Here we go again.  If you have great legs, 20 inches above your knee might work.  If you don’t have great legs or they are a bit substantial, knee-length is as short as you dare…remember that photograher and that wedding album.  It’s permanent!

Mothers can be offenders as well although not as often.  Perhaps wedding-dress-wisdom comes with age?  Except one wedding I played, where the mother of the groom was quite substantial and decided to wear an off-the-shoulder beautiful Grecian style gown.  Well, when it takes forever for the dress to make it from the “off-the-shoulder” to the other side of the body…not good.  Way too much viewing going on.  I’m sorry to keep on about that photographer and how permanent this all is but…

Then there was the tall, willowy bride who wore a slim, willowy gown…and had absolutely no upper body fat!  And, she wore a strapless gown, which not only made her look sunken and emaciated but bent over as well.  This I blame on the sales associate in the bridal store.  Someone needed to tell this bride that she needed a different kind of style with more “shoulders” etc. to offset her slim-ness and to make her look more balanced and less emaciated…more built up.

This is your wedding day girls!  Think about it!  This particular day won’t happen again!  You can’t shop for a dress thinking “anything goes.”  Look at Kate Middleton (Prince William’s bride).  She was a bit constricted by protocol but that’s not necessarily a bad thing.  Her dress turned out extraordinary, and of course it fit her to a T.  Now you don’t have to be the Duchess of Cambridge to get a good-fitting, flattering dress for yourself…one that can make you LOOK like a duchess.  You need “body smarts.”  And those sales associates need the cojones to tell the brides what doesn’t look good. 

I just assisted at a recent wedding (the “froo-froo” lady) and saw some fine dressing indeed!  The bride’s mom wore a simple, understated and elegant dress in a pale green, a color that suited her blonde hair just perfectly.  The groom’s mom was a bit challenging as she was a bit substantial.  She pulled it off…a flowing, summery jacket-dress in sea green and sea blue, with a sea blue wide-rimmed straw hat.  What a babe!  I couldn’t get over how fabulous she looked.  The bride was equally well-dressed…a spaghetti strap dress with a bodice of sequins and jewels, and a beautiful flowing bottom that had just enough train to follow her without getting caught around corners etc.  She fit into her dress perfectly and was just stunning!  Sooo, it CAN be done!

Whether you agree with me or not, I don’t care.  How do you like that?  ha!  I’ve seen enough in my life…literally!  This is your wedding day.  Brides, bridesmaids and mothers…please think long and hard about how you want to look on those oh-so-permanent pictures.  Don’t try to fit into a style that doesn’t work for you no matter how popular it is and don’t let a sales associate try to do it to you either.  You know how you look…and what looks good on you.  Use your low-gut-feeling and get the proper dress for your special day.  You’ll be happy you did especially when you reminisce years later looking at your pictures.  And if you did because you read my blog, then I’m happy to have helped!  😀

People are interesting.  Especially in relationships.  In my own relationships, romantic that is, I’ve never quite been able to make it to the altar.  I know I’m professional and independent and unwavering in my core values, as we all should be, but throughout life and through a number of relationships I’ve noticed how the men I’ve been with never seem to be interested in growing beyond a certain point…like they’ve hit a ceiling or something.  I don’t know that I’ve ever met a man who has an unlimited ceiling or no ceiling to growth and thirst for exploring new stuff.  I’m sure this goes for women too as I don’t mean to isolate only the male gender on this.  And yes, I do know women for whom little growth or no growth suits them just fine.  These are obviously not my closest friends. ha!  But trying to be in a close relationship with someone who “stops” is interesting.  It’s kind-of over at that point since one person wants to keep moving and the other just stops.  huh!  I’ve always wondered too why finding people with the eternal youthfulness no matter what age, and this open-ended desire to grow is so darn difficult.  We’re all at different levels of development in our life journey but on the other hand, there are gazillions of people on the earth.  Just a very interesting quest, finding people like yourself who just want to grow and move forward and live forever!  I’d love to live in a colony of people like this.  O well, I guess the search for people like yourself is what makes life’s journey interesting.  Kind of like people-watching at Nantasket Beach…now THAT’S interesting!

Why do young people drink so much?  We all tasted it when we were young but I have to admit, liquor tasted terrible.  I remember when I was old enough to drink, I couldn’t wait to have a beer!  My father, older brother, relatives all loved beer!  Me too!  And then, I finally had one!  Yuck!  But of course, I couldn’t say anything because I had to “save face” so I pretended to like it.  O Bozhe moi!  I eventually did fnd a brand that I liked and stuck with it whenever I ordered a beer.  So all was not lost.  But you can’t tell me that every young person out there posting pictures on Facebook with all those empty beer cans actually enjoys the stuff.  Suspect indeed!  How does one go from water, milk and soda to all-of-a-sudden a beer and like it so much they can’t stop drinking it, at least from some of the pictures I see.

Liquor is an acquired taste.  And one that takes time to acquire, which no person in their late teens to early 20s has had nearly enough time to acquire!  I know teenagers drink…college kids are probably known more for that than academic expertise.  But why?  Of what useful value is liquor?  One can argue that beer does have some healthy components and of course, red wine has the heart-friendly resveratrol, but other than that booze puts on weight, can land one in jail if caught driving under the influence, can cause people to become violent, and in general gets people into situations not to be proud of.  Plus, it really doesn’t taste all that good anyway!  I assume young people do it because of peer pressure…”that’s what you do when you attain a certain age,” not necessarily 21 either!  Yeah, there’s a reason to do it, because “everybody else does it!”  Which of course begs the question, “if everybody jumped off a cliff would you do it too?”

Over my adult years I made my way gingerly through hard liquor as well, tasting here and there and finally deciding I liked vodka and cognac the best, although not mixed together!  ha!  What I have settled into is an occasional beer, my yearly Jack Daniels plus ginger-ale-highball, and some good cabernet sauvignon wine.  But above all, my favorite is a nice glass of ice water.  Funny how water won over all the others. 

Of course, one must realize how fiercely independent I am.  I don’t do a lot of group things  of this nature because I DON’T want to look like I belong to a herd…I’m my own person.  I’m also older and have had a couple of surgeries in my life.  And I’ll tell you, there’s nothing at all that can beat doing well during surgery.  That usually cures one of any kind of addiction…except chocolate, of course!

So there we have it, the eternal question of why young people find it so important to drink up and often!  Booze is fascinating.  So is what it does to people too!  ha!  Nothing like being a slobbering fool not in control of your faculties with slurred speach, inability to walk and in general, no control over how big a fool you’re making of yourself!  I suppose this will never end as long as society has booze in it.  And we all experimented when we were young.  But, here’s the point, we all learned from our ugly experiences and vowed to “never do THAT again!”  So then, other than for the one-time experimentation of it, I once again ask “why do young people drink so much?”

Regarding the supposed end of the Earth on Saturday, May 21…I can’t stand this!  It makes religion look foolish.  This is right up there with somebody seeing the face of Jesus on a half-eaten toasted cheese sandwich.  I’ve been Christian forever!  The Bible is the Bible.  It’s made up of stories, metaphors, parables, etc.  No one really knows what any of the authors of the Bible meant.  But we try our best to figure it out so we can live a good life and love and respect our neighbor as ourselves.  But no one can know how or when the Earth will end.  Religion/spirituality isn’t some computer program.  It’s not easy being a Christian.  People like these Rapture-ites make it look like “we’d better be good cuz’ Santa Claus is comin’ to town.”  If only life WERE that easy.  These people have such a narrow-minded vision of what God is.  It’s a tough road being a good person but we pursue it.  And the last thing any good Christian should be doing is trying to figure out when the world will end.  Figure out a good life!  The Earth will end when it’s good and ready.  And we will probably be long gone anyway.

It’s Philosopher-Eve again.  The question is what’s the impatience with growing up?  There are so many things available to kids now that attempt to make them grow up faster and faster.  The only thing is that even though so many adult things in this day and age are geared at kids, the kids themselves aren’t really growing up any faster.  They may think they are but they aren’t.  But what is happening is the kids are finding themselves in adult situations and failing miserably.  They’re getting messed up.  New drivers are getting great cars and speeding themselves to death or jail or suspended licenses before they’re actually 21 (supposed adulthood).  How many college kids used credit cards “out-of-control” and racked up debt and ruined their credit before age 21?  And drinking, Good God!  Hosing booze directly into your body like you’re watering the lawn?  I know kids are supposed to be learning how to be adults as they grow and get through the formative years but key word here is “learning.”  And my latest rant, the Ambercrombie & Fitch push-up bikini for little girls?  What exactly are they pushing up?  They’ve got nothin’!  There is an awful lot of disconnect between the reality of being a kid and growing up and what is actually happening to kids in this day and age.  Like I said, what’s the rush to grow up?  It happens, like it or not.  And when you’re 21 and older, you are responsible for yourself.  Parents are nice people but you are now over that wonderful age of 21 and you are now responsible for yourself for the rest of your life.  Can’t hide behind Mom and Dad anymore.  And doesn’t it come soon enough!

Here we are again.  I’ve always wondered about the passive-aggressive people.  When you approach this type of person they usually are very friendly, in my experience, and seem to be agreeable as well.  Yet, when faced with something they might have to do for you (or anyone for that matter) that they may not necessarily agree with, they just conveniently ignore the whole matter until the other person just “goes away.”  If the other person keeps at it, that person is looked at as a troublemaker.  Interesting state of affairs.  And interesting how many people get trapped in a situation like this with a “p-a” type of person.  Who knows how many rotten incidents could have been solved or not happened at all if both parties were honest about their feelings and tried truly working together.  But it’s the mindset of the “p-a” person that is intriguing.  Haven’t figured it out yet. 

More to come!