I read an interesting article the other day. It talked about dating/having a relationship with a musician. From the sound of this article the author was a classical musician. And this article was me…through and through.

If you have been reading my Blog over the years you realize I am still in search of my one-true love/husband. And I do realize being a musician, especially an opera singer, plays a part in that life. Music is something us serious and professional musicians are gifted with in life. We have this “thing” that we sort of rotate around and pulls us through life. The music chooses us as much as we choose it. We’re not weird people just focused on a gift from God that we have that lives inside us. We must do what we are formatted to do…and that is to make music.

We all have a gift in this life. A lot of people don’t fully pursue their gifts. For myself, if I didn’t follow my music life I would be totally unhappy and unfocused and well, miserable. And this is where a partner needs to step up to the plate. We can be great partners and loving and caring and compassionate…all those emotions that one needs to make proper music. But the life is a bit different. One usually has to work regular jobs besides making music or many music jobs to make a real living. This means we are working at something days, nights and some of our weekends. Not attractive to a lot of people who are not musicians but nothing to be afraid of either.

One has to practice. Yes. We musicians make noise…loud noise. And when practicing you’ll hear us sing or play a phrase ad nauseum just to get it right. It might sound irritating/monotonous to a non-musician but that’s how making music works. It’s the striving for near perfection especially before a performance. It takes a lot of work and many years of pure focus to learn to play an instrument and to become an opera singer, not to mention conquering the nerves and stamina to perform. Definitely not for the faint of heart.

But still, it’s who we are. And we make music from the heart. There is no other place this gift can come from. I personally am very happy for my musical life. I’ve worked hard and have accomplished many musical things. I love the students I teach and the new music I continue to sing and play. But like everyone else I still want the intimate partner. And yes, I know this means being single a longer time than most people because finding someone who can accept who you are and what makes you tick is difficult. Especially when one has a rather different lifestyle.

If you read this Blog think about what gift you have…what you’ve always felt compelled to do. What defines you? Think about it. Are you doing it? It’s who you are.

Be who you are meant to be. You owe it to yourself. That’s the only person you can be. Make your own music…whatever that music is.